Hello Mom (I realize you may be the only person reading this at first…),
I’ve been thinking about starting a blog to discuss counseling topics in a real and honest way while spreading my own comical takes on the issues. Many people I’ve come in contact with struggle with mental health either personally, among family, friends, co-workers, etc. It is something we all may have to deal with at some point or another in life. We may simply deal with counseling topics in a general manner too.
So, I thought I’d share what I’m learning this week. I’ve been studying the book of James in the Bible…Pastor James is kicking my butt. He doesn’t beat around the bush or (shoot around the bush as I said teaching by mistake…). In chapter 4 James discussed how to deal with conflict. We all love conflict I know…It is a part of life that we can learn to deal with in a healthy manner.
Here are a few tips from James (my paraphrase…)
- Most of our arguments, conflicts come from our own selfish desires. Consider in certain areas of conflict where you are being selfish. Can you put aside your selfishness in the matter?
- Stop envying others and spend that time and energy asking God for the things you desire.
- Be humble. Accept when you are wrong. Give grace like God does. Some of us need more than others.
- Resist evil (the devil), resist selfishness, resist bad motives/intentions. Submit to God, be kind, loving, and forgiving
- Don’t judge others. We weren’t created to judge, it makes us feel horrible when we try to do it. Judgment is God’s not ours.
Ok, that’s it! Easy enough. In the words of my six year old son, “Done”. Seriously, it is tough stuff. However, if we handle ourselves properly during times of conflict it can make a huge impact in the lives of others.